Hey Coach Kathy...
This seems to be the theme of my clients this week. The third week in January has caught people off the high of Christmas break and back into the reality of the world. And it can suck!
How do I stay positive?
How to you stay positive, motivated and moving towards your goals when you feel tired, overwhelmed and challenged is not easy.
The messages we hear tell us to keep our chin up
Look at the Facebook posts. Read motivational books. They tell us:
I can be done. The secret is behind your eyes.
It is not what you see that makes up your reality, but what you think about what you see. We all experience similar events, but react to them differently. I can wait in line and feel quite mellow. You however, might be anxious waiting in line.
If you get a call from your kids’s teacher because your teenager has missing assignments and you might feel angry. Someone else might feel embarrassed. A third parent might be grateful for the call.
The third parent may have had some concerns and tells themselves when the teacher calls that “Someone is on my side. We can work together to help my child out.” The embarrassed parent tells themselves “I haven’t done a good job of raising my child.” The angry parent probably has thoughts something like “That little #%Q^”.
Those inner voices are the most powerful things in our body. They control every one of our experiences. The messages we tell ourselves about our events create our reality of the event.
Our inner dialogue controls our outer experience
If I tell myself that running my own business is hard,; I will notice all of the hard things that I experience every day. If I instead tell myself that running my own business will be full of learning opportunities, I will see lessons I have learned.
The secret is getting control of what is going on in your head.
How do you stay positive, motivated and on track?
You get aware of your runaway thoughts. Then you get in control of your thoughts.
You are the boss. Now be the boss!
My book is out!