Feeling Off Balance
We all crave balance in our lives. That place where we feel like we aren’t being tugged and pulled in a million directions. We yearn for the time when we feel good about how we are spending our time and how we are spreading ourselves. We want peace, contentment and an easy flow of life. That is why the term work-life balance has become so popular.
What is Balance?
Balance is an equal distribution of weight and balancing is the process by which we try to achieve that. Like a tight ropewalker with their bar, we are constantly shifting our weight. That weight is all that is happening in our lives, our relationship and our own needs. In essence, we are trying to achieve that abstract point of balance. In order to attain true balance however one must stop. An object, or you, must be stationary to be completely balanced. Our lives are never stopped though and in reality, as much as we say we would like them to be, we really don’t want to be completely stationary. We want to be doing things, enjoying life and growing constantly.
I am suggesting then, that rather than looking for balance, you are looking to get good at balancing. You want to be good at slight adjustments to moving the weight in your life around while staying on your feet and moving forward. I am also suggesting the word you are looking for is stability. Stability is the ability of a body to restore its balance after a disturbance (change in position or orientation).
Think first of your immune system. How well do you bounce back after a cold? Does your body restore its balance after getting sick? What about when you slip on the ice. Are you able to restore your balance quickly or do you fall down? That is the concept of balancing our lives. Things happen. Lots of things! Every day we are faced with added weight on one side or the other. A project is given to you at work, your child is sick, you get a cold, you are asked to volunteer or you yearn to just relax and read a good book.
Leaning From One Side, Then to the Other
When something happens and weight gets added to one side, you lean that way. That’s normal. In order to regain balance, you need that stability. You need that ability to restore your life back to a healthy balance. This means there will be days you put more time and energy into work and other days that your home and personal needs call louder and you focus there. The question is; are you balancing? Are you conscious of how much you are leaning to one side, how close you are to tipping over? What are you doing to help put weight back on the other side to pull you back to being stable?
Imagine having your arms outstretched with all the components of you life in your hands. Are you leaning back and forth or toppling to one side? What needs to shift so your life is more balanced?
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