There isn’t only one way to see things. There is not a perfect way to handle a challenge. There is not only one description for a person. We live in a world of many perspectives, viewpoints, possibilities and opinions.
Applying this truth to how we tackle leadership, can serve to increase your confidence level. Let me show you how.
Your Inner Guidance System Via The Inner Guidance Cycle
I have walked you through the stages of accessing your Inner Guidance System in the last few weeks. You’ve learned to move through the first two steps of the Inner Guidance Cycle. The first step, pausing, allows you to notice what has been going on both around you and inside of you. The next step I’ve encouraged you to do is to ponder. Pondering is getting curious about your thoughts, feelings, and sensations. It is by accessing this inner wisdom or your Inner Guidance System that will help you to find self-confidence. In this post, I want to talk to you about what to do with what you find when you’ve spent some time reflecting.
Unconscious to Conscious
The first two steps of the Inner Guidance Cycle have helped you to turn unconscious thoughts into conscious thought. We are usually so unaware of what is going on inside us. Because we haven’t noticed, we also don’t realize what the thoughts we are having are doing to our confidence levels.
Be Wary of Looping Thoughts
Being unaware of repetitive looping thoughts such as, “I can’t handle this” allows the idea to become an engrained belief. Becoming aware that we’ve had the same thought, ten times in the last 3 minutes, makes it possible to examine the idea more carefully.
When we become more mindful of the fact that we repeatedly have this thought, we can inspect it. Is it true? Maybe not. Or, perhaps it is partially correct. You can then ask yourself what parts are true. “It is true that I can’t handle it all by myself.”
This new understanding helps us to realize that we may need to learn something new, ask for help or try a different way. Awareness helps to shift our thinking.
This change in thinking gives us the ability to see the problem and ourselves differently. Rather than the repetitive thought of; “I can’t” we pivot to; “With help, I can.” Suddenly, the load seems a little lighter and our confidence is boosted.
Turing to new ways
Pivoting is turning. It is shifting the way we see a challenge, a project, another person, or ourselves. It is changing our perspective.
The following excerpt comes from page 139 of my upcoming book Mastering Confidence: Discover Your Leadership Potential by Awakening Your Inner Guidance System. It will help to deepen your understanding of the pivot step,
How To Pivot
To change what you are thinking, ask yourself the following questions:
Making Your Pivot
Pivoting allows you to get from where you are now, which is often stuck, to where you want to be. Think of it as an intersection. Pause when you get there. Ponder for a moment. Look at the direction you are going, then consider the alternatives. Which road ahead of me is going to get me to the future vision I desire. Then, let’s head down that path. Use the Inner Guidance Cycle to access your Inner Guidance System!
Up next week, I’ll help you with the final stage of the, Inner Guidance Cycle, proceeding.
Kathy is a leadership coach for women who want to strengthen their leadership and find balance in life. She mentors females as they rediscover their purpose, passion and persistence for life while dealing with office politics, jerk bosses and the challenges of family life. In her signature program Women with Grit: Leading with Courage & Confidence, Kathy gives her ladies the hope and inspiration they need along with a kick in the pants to make positive change in their lives.
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