Why is it that we avoid doing things that we know are good for us? It’s been a year since I hired my own coach and one of my goals at that time was to add meditation to my day. And that’s been really really hard. I can make all of the excuses about not finding time, or there is not a quiet space for me to do it, or I don’t know how to do it. The truth is I get in the way of doing it.
The last few weeks have been very busy and a wee bit stressful as I’ve prepared for a conference, a training session, workshops, added new clients, continuing to take training and personal growth on top of being a mom and a wife. And the stress has really taken a toll on my body. I’ve noticed this increased tension in my shoulders and more headaches. I’ve become reminded once again that it’s important for me to add something to my life that helps to reduce stress and bring me back to a place of consciousness and presence.
As I’ve started meditating a little bit over the last few weeks, I’ve recognized how important it is and of course I’ve been surprised that I resisted for so long. Simply adding 10 minutes of mediation in the morning or in the evening has had significant impact on my ability to relax and slow down. It has had an amazing bonus ability to have my mind quiet enough to become creative in what I am doing and what I am working on. When I do it, I am more relaxed in my relationships and I love the feeling of just being!
When you put up walls to things you know are good for you and things you know you should be doing, like going for walks, having a little bit healthier snack, meditating, getting a massage or journaling, I invite you to question yourself. Question why you resist all of those little things that we often call self care things. The things that you struggle to do and yet you know you should do and you know are good for you. The things that in the long run you know will make your life easier. Stop and question what the purpose is in putting up those roadblocks and putting up the barriers. Why are you making the excuses? Then, pick up those barriers and move them out of the way. They are not as heavy as you think, you assume or you make up that they are. And if you do find they are a little bit heavier, ask someone for help to move them, because in the end when you know what is good for you, you are pretty smart and are probably right! It is good for you.
p.s. Its not so bad to ask for help either. Thanks Ernie for helping me to move some of my roadblocks!
I just took a coffee break. My break was vacuuming my house. Working at home has it's advantages and disadvantages. I got supper in the slow cooker earlier and have done two loads of laundry. I've also had two coaching calls and made a number of follow up calls and emails and signed up one new one-to-one coaching client. A pretty productive morning so far! So what is it about doing "work" on a break that makes it a break.
For me, a break is a change of pace, a different thing for my mind and body to do. I spent the morning sitting. Vacuuming and running up and down the stairs to switch laundry gets my body moving and my heart pumping. These are two very important things. The methodic motion of vacuuming has a calming sense and the look of my floor after gives me a feeling of order. It is a way also to slow my mind down and empty it of the clutter of thoughts. It's amazing what then comes into the mind! I am able to be more creative and insightful.
So what is the key to taking breaks? For me, it's about awareness and presence. When I go go go, I can fall into the trap of not being present. To stop and take a break makes me aware that my body is stiff and wants to move, wiggle, stretch or dance. By speeding up my body, it actually allows me to slow down and be more present to what is there!
When I am working, I want to feel connected to the person on the other end of the phone or who is receiving my email or reading my work. I want to be alive, creative, energetic and engaged. In order to do that I need to be present to me, to what I am doing and to whom I am connecting with. So rather than taking a coffee break, I aim to take a break that rejuvenates me. I look to do something that will recharge me and bring me back to being present and conscious. Sometimes that means taking a break to take my dog for a walk, to sit in my garden, talk to my kids, make supper or to vacuum. I then drink my coffee when I get back to work!
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