I was sitting in my living room this morning journaling and seen them! The dust bunnies! It's amazing what shows up when that beautiful sunshine streams in at just the right angle! They are everywhere. They are on my coffee tables, my bookshelf and on the desk. Oh my! Did my Mother-in-law notice when she was here? Of course she did! She cleaned my stove for me. She must have noticed all the other imperfections in my house. The crumbs in the corner of my floor, the finger prints on the wall and the toothpaste smeared on the vanity in the bathroom. How embarrassing! Is it really?
When I look at my life, and what I choose to do with my time, I can honestly say that I love the dust bunnies and all their friends. They are there because I am working hard at building my business and creating a life that involves me doing work I am passionate about. They are there because when I have time at the end of the day, I chose to have tea with Ernie, work-out, go for walks, sit longer at the supper table chatting with the kids, tend to my house plants and very soon to my yard. The dust bunnies are there because I know that appearing perfect on the outside doesn't mean things are perfect on the inside.
I also know that I can't let them overtake my life. At some point, I will have to take things off the shelf and wipe away the dust bunnies, clean off the fingerprints and sweep and mop the floor. It's important to look at things every now and then and make it shine. As a leader of my business, I shine up my workshops, my coaching skills, my marketing material, my website, my Facebook page and my goals and visions. I know that I need to be fresh and current and not sit back and let things get dusty. I know that to impact others I need to connect with them in a meaningful way and to do that, I need to not get dusty
And so, I will dust, just not today. Today I am going to play in the sunshine! Maybe tomorrow I will dust...or the next day!
I had a good workout yesterday and am feeling the effects today. My muscles are sore, but in a good way. You know the feeling! It’s when your body says, “Hey! You worked hard and used some muscles that you forgot about and got them working again. Good job! Keep it up and you will grow them even stronger!” It reminded me of how I feel sometimes after an intense conversation (a.k.a. fight) with Ernie.
When I am using all of my effective communication skills, when I am being patient, loving and compassionate, it is hard work! It is much easier to get lazy and throw out the sarcasm, innuendos or give in. Yet when I do use all of the skills I have learned and am continuing to learn and when I apply what I know a fight can turn into an intense conversation about what we love, our values and where we are going. We are passionate about what we are saying and more conscious of how we say it. As we find alignment, we are able to move forward together rather than drift apart. And the next day, I feel the muscles growing stronger and holding us together tighter.
When I learned new skills over the years as a manager, I always loved coming back and applying them with my staff. They often looked at me like I was a bit crazy. I would say and do things that were different than what they were used. Some ideas we kept, others we threw out, but in the end we all grew stronger together as a team by working our muscles. One of the key ones I know worked well and was important to my team was “Bucket Filling”, and opportunity to fill each other’s buckets’ up with positive feedback at the beginning of a staff meeting. That ‘crazy’ idea stuck even after I stopped leading staff meetings and served to build a strong team.
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