There are three simple things you should do this year
1) Acknowledge and be grateful for all the lessons and blessing you've had in 2013.
2) Develop some goals for 2014. What do you want to happen in the coming year.
3) Be present today as you celebrate New Year's with friends and loved ones.
We've all wished for more. Many of us want more time, more peace, a higher income or more quiet times in our day. Some times it is an ache for that feeling of more just a few more hours of sleep. If you've been trying to figure out how to adjust your schedule to suit your needs better, try these three tips
1) Vision what you really want
In order to create a new schedule, it's helpful to know specifically what you are looking for.
You don't go to the car dealer and say I want a new car. You go with some specifics in mind. You might want a two door or four door. You may actually want a SUV. If your like me you probably even know what colour your looking for. You've probably been visioning your new car for a while.
Take a moment to vision your new schedule. Close your eyes for and imagine it's already happened. Imagine 6 months from now you've figured out how to adjust your schedule and it is working beautifully. What does it look like?
Look closely at things and get the details down.
2) Write it out
We all have different definitions of what more relaxed looks like. Your idea of a calm day may be very different than mine. When you say you want more time to yourself does that mean 10 minutes a day or 1 full day a month?
Grab a piece of paper or a journal and write out "a day with my new schedule". Detail what would happen and when. Be as specific as you can.
3. Revisit it often (daily is best)
It's important to be clear when you create the vision. and here is why ... what you think about you create in your reality.
Lets say for example you want to exercise more. Yet you keep seeing all the interuptions that get in the way of your ability to exercise. That's what your thinking about, so that's what you get... more interruptions.
Instead imagine, vision, create in your minds eye, what it would look like if you did find time. Imagine finding the time to go for a 10 minute walk at lunch. See yourself heading to the gym in the mornings. Visualize yourself attending a yoga class. Watch a vision of you doing some ab exercises while lying on the floor with your children. See exercise fitting into your day.
When you review your vision every day, you will suddenly see it happening!
There is nothing worse than not knowing whom you are talking to. When I call someplace and I ask for someone and they are actually the person that answered the phone, there is always this second of awkwardness. If they’d just indicated their name when they answered the phone I’d know so I didn’t ask for them. It also allows me to be more personable. When someone answers “Hi, Agency XYZ, Jane speaking”, I can be say “Hey Jane, you were just the person I was looking for,” or “Hi Jane, is Cindy around?” It is kind of like noticing the nametag of the teller at the grocery store and saying “Thank you Dave for helping me out.”
I now want to be friendly and inviting, not stiff and professional
Recently it was bugging me again and with a little contemplation, I began to answer incoming calls simply with “Hi, it’s Kathy.” And I smile a little bit when I say it. It feels more me.
The other day the receptionist called to sort out some details regarding our upcoming bathroom renovations and to schedule the plumber. I chipperly answered “Hi, it’s Kathy” and caught her off guard!
Her comment to me was “You sounded so upbeat, I thought it was an answering machine!” Well now, doesn’t that just say something about the state of the world? The only time we sound like we are in a good mood is when we “fake” it to record our message on our voice mail!
We aren't present when we answer the phone
What it says to me is that we probably aren’t very present when we answer the phone. We are probably in the middle of something and the phone is a distraction, an inconvenience and possibly a signal of more work coming down the pipe. I envision people actually sighing before they say hello or tensing up prior to answering the phone. As a result, their voice is anything less than chipper.
Consider two things
If you are in the middle of something, you could finish what you are doing or get to a more reasonable pause point before returning a call. There is this fancy thing on most phones that allow you to shut the ringer off! Use it once in a while. In most cases, it won’t be the end of the world if you don’t answer the phone. I promise!
Transition points happen when we shift from one thing to another. I remember getting the kids ready for bed at night when they were little. We’d always give them a bit of a warning that bedtime was coming soon. It allowed them to finish physically and emotionally what they were doing before shifting into bedtime.
We don’t often give ourselves those transition points any more. Simply pausing and taking a breath before answering the phone is often enough time to shift from what you were doing to the person on the other end of the line.
And don’t forget to smile! Even thought they can’t see it, they can feel it and so can you!
What to do?
Take a break!
Slow down, even just for a few moments.
Most of us spend most of our time sitting. We sit when we eat, we sit when we work, we sit when we travel and when we watch TV and check Facebook in the evenings. We spend more time sitting than we do sleeping!
In the “olden” days, when they took a rest, it mean they sat down. Sitting and resting for their break was important because they did so much manual labor. Now, in these times, I am encouraging you to take a break and get up!
Get off your butt and on your feet!
Get out of your chair! Stretch. Go for a walk to the bathroom or around the block. Go talk to someone in the next cubicle or next office instead of emailing him or her. Dance. Wiggle your body.
Take a break today! And tell those around you to do it too!
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